Most of us are guilty for being a bit too hard on ourselves, and our own worst enemies. We play down our achievements, we tell ourselves we aren’t good enough, and that it’s our fault when usually it isn’t. We’d never talk to a friend like that, so why do we do it to ourselves? There’s a number of reasons of course, but this kind of self-loathing isn’t healthy for the soul.
Then I read a tweet the other day about having a diary or list of compliments said about you from others, to read over on those days when you feel like you aren’t good enough. Now my internal monologue isn’t always very kind to me, so it’s an idea I’m totally on board with.
So here it is, the beginning of my list of compliments … said recently by friends, colleagues, and ex-boyfriends:
- A word that sums up our friendship: loyalty
- You’re so funny, I think your jokes are funny
- You’re the nicest person I know
- You look good
- You’re so thoughtful!
- You’re the most polite person here, and I’m sure your parents are more than proud of you
- You were destined for a career in diplomacy
You know what? I’ll take that.